Going through a divorce is no easy feat. The following are tips to assist you:
Has she or he been number one in my life or has my attention been elsewhere?
Have I been responsive to his or her needs or have I taken them for granted?
Have I been accessible and present in my marriage?
Take responsibility for your half of the dysfunctions no matter what position your spouse takes.
Consider All Your Options
Many marriages can be restored through marriage counseling or relationship coaching.
Find a marriage counselor or relationship coach who is committed to coming alongside you to help you repair the marriage.
A good marriage counselor or relationship coach isn’t one that will tell you what to do, but rather, is trained to help you resolve your conflict–help you get unstuck.
A good marriage counselor or relationship coach will train you in effective communication and conflict resolution skills as well as equip you with intimacy-building skills to help you bring back the spark.
Being proactive is the key. If you get help early on when problems appear you’ll be in and out of therapy quicker than if you wait until one of you wants a separation or divorce.
Marriage is the union of two hearts. Breaking apart that union is not simple or pain-free. The legal aspects of divorce are only 20% of the process. 80% of a divorce is the emotional and spiritual work needed to be completed to truly be set free from this union.
When We Work Together, You Will Learn How To:
Stabilize and heal from the daunting and traumatic process of dissolving your marriage.
Move through the grief cycle without getting stuck in depression or anger.
Navigate the process in a way that will promote a quicker path to healthy living and recovery from your losses.
Be ready to attract true love.
Coaching and Counseling services available face to face, via video calls or by phone consultations.
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