11 Signs of Love Trauma: When Good Women Love A Narcissist

Lies, deception, secrecy, and an uneven power structure lead to betrayal or love trauma. It doesn’t matter if you entered the relationship feeling confident in yourself and proud of your accomplishments. By systematically applying a medley of seduction, infuriating and crazy-making techniques, a perpetrator – whether he’s a narcissist, sociopath, and/or psychopath – can swiftly groom to disempower his victim.

Grooming leads to dramatically DAMAGING your self-esteem, self-image, and sense of security.

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A malignant narcissist or a psychopath does not share his power but rather dominates the girlfriend, wife, or partner, demanding control. The victim’s reality is under the control of a person other than herself.

Therefore, emotional and psychological abuse is strategically used and underlies ALL abusive relationships. The abuser’s best interest is to keep you feeling as worthless and powerless as possible by toying with your emotions.

By not caring about your wellbeing or honoring your needs, by not offering his strength or protection, by controlling further with the use of jealousy, the narcissist sends the message “You are not good enough” and “You need me”.

Feelings of worthlessness and powerlessness lead to low self-esteem, translating to a woman feeling ugly, stupid, fat, and/or lazy and even producing poor body image even when a woman knows intellectually she is none of these things.

Shame, fear, and ambivalence overwhelm the victim.  This leads to a combination of disorders – e.g. addiction, depression, rage, eating disorders, anxiety, and suicide – all of which make you more vulnerable to the manipulative tactics of the abuser.

After an abusive relationship, your natural love and compassion will transform into overwhelming confusion, panic, and anxiety. Whether you were discarded, found the courage to leave, or finally ran away from the abuser, remember, it will take time to find release from the narcissist’s control over your heart.

It’s important to keep safe and prepare for a journey of healing your heart’s wound. Part of the work is to accept the truth about the abuse and tragic loss of love. The other part is to say goodbye to the lies, deception, debilitating shame, desperation, and fear manufactured by your abuser.

The following are 11 signs of love trauma (PTSD-post traumatic stress disorder):

  1. You can’t sleep through the night and/or have bad dreams
  2. You can’t eat or you’re eating too much
  3. You’re tired, fatigued, and tense
  4. You cry more than you ever have, you’ve become reactive, apologetic and suspicious of everything and you lack trust in even your “safe” people
  5. You have intrusive thoughts and images, memory problems, problems communicating and concentrating
  6. You experience a loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed
  7. You feel insane, shocked, ashamed, humiliated, and empty
  8. You dip into feeling hopeless, helpless, overwhelmed, alone, and isolated
  9. Your mood moves from anxious, depressed, feeling dirty or unattractive, to feeling afraid, irritable or outraged, and enraged
  10. You become self-doubting, self-loathing, and/or self-destructive
  11. You obsess looking for clues about the relationship and the truth about the person you loved

In the midst of great pain and suffering, our greatest challenge can become our greatest opportunity for transformational healing and change. Fear transforms into faith and love eventually regenerates.

It’s my goal to empower and educate so you have the tools needed to avoid people who are incapable of expressing love as well as to support your healing journey when love and the loveless collide. You are worthy of a man’s respect, love, and protection. You’re wired to give and receive Fearless Love!

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By | 2018-09-19T13:34:50+00:00 September 27th, 2017|Categories: abusive relationships, Advice, Dating, Divorce, Trauma|Tags: |0 Comments

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Jianny Adamo, LMHC, founder of Fearless Love Counseling & Coaching supports singles & couples breaking through fears and limitations to create safe & intimate marriages and relationships. Video calls and phone consultations available. Download a FREE excerpt of her book - From Love Trauma To Fearless Love: 7 Tango Steps For Breaking Free From Narcissists and Predators

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