Better yet, score big by speaking your spouse’s love language. If you are looking for ways to stop the complaints, create more harmony and to connect more deeply, Dr. Gary Chapman suggests that as human beings we give and receive love through five basic love languages. Each of us gravitates to a particular language or grouping of these languages. By giving the love language your spouse speaks, you can hit the mark. If you really want to score big, flow in each of these love languages daily and see your love grow into a blazing fire.