VoyageMIA would like to introduce you to Jianny Adamo!
Thanks for sharing your story with us Jianny. So, let’s start at the beginning and we can move on from there.
As an Author, Psychotherapist, Speaker, and Founder of Fearless Love, I specialize in intimacy and relationships, working with clients on a variety of modern love challenges including courtship, sexual compatibility, communication tools, divorce, betrayal, and recovery.
My work on relationships and on heartbreak appear in YourTango.com, Bride, MSN, Glamour, PsychCentral, Bustle, OnMogul, and eHarmony.
As a survivor of narcissistic abuse and sexual violence, my book From Love Trauma To Fearless Love: 7 Tango Steps for Breaking Free from Narcissists and Predators ranked as a #1 New Release on Amazon!
I have devoted the past 15 years, to the study of human behavior, relationship dynamics, and spiritual theory. With a Master in Counseling from Nyack College, NY, I hold Mental Health Counselor Licenses in FL and NJ.
My mission is to empower, educate, and enlighten individuals and couples to release the pain of the past, live more authentically and create safe, intimate marriages and fearless loving relationships.
We’re always bombarded by how great it is to pursue your passion, etc – but we’ve spoken with enough people to know that it’s not always easy. Overall, would you say things have been easy for you?
There are many challenges and struggles to overcome! I opened my practice in Florida in the aftermath of the 2009 recession. I moved after my divorce leaving behind connections as well as my referral sources. For years, I had to live off of my savings and pore my earnings back into the business.
As fate would have it the first man I had a relationship with, in those early years, was a sweet and charming sociopath who groomed me to love him. The pain and trauma I suffered were like non-other. Needless to say, it was a date with destiny as the lessons and healing journey landed me with a #1 new release book on Amazon.
It took several years to heal. In that time, I met with a number of therapists. Although they cared, most didn’t understand narcissistic abuse. I did a lot of research to recognize the type of abuse I had gone through.
Now I’m one of the few licensed therapists that truly understand narcissistic abuse and the grooming predators put their victims through.
So let’s switch gears a bit and go into the Fearless Love story. Tell us more about the business.
As a healer and a survivor, I have a 360 view of relationships. It’s easy for me to distinguish manipulations, irresponsibility, entitlement, gaslighting (brainwashing techniques to make the partner doubt their perception and make them feel like they are going crazy) vs. immaturity, lack of skill sets, disempowering beliefs, or mental health issues that can be rehabilitated.
I have the tools to support the growth of the individual as well as a couple to bring them together in conflict, learn effective communication, maintain a passionate partnership or to determine they are in an emotionally abusive relationship that is disempowering and detrimental to their health.
Wired to love and be loved, it’s our birthright to be cared for, cherished, and esteemed. As I wrote From Love Trauma To Fearless Love: 7 Tango Steps for Breaking Free form Narcissist and Predators, I learned that in a relationship being treated anything less than a priority– is abusive.
In order to keep love safe and intimate, each partner needs to be fully committed and vested in the partnership.
We always love to ask about the support network – have there been people, perhaps mentors or advisors, who have played a big role in your success?
I have two spiritual mentors, Teri and Toby, which I have been meeting with for over 12 years. They have kept me grounded and have supported my healing.
They also serve as accountability partners helping me to live with integrity and on target with my hopes and dreams. Tobi, graciously, edited my manuscript and, other than myself is the only other person who probably knows my book inside and out. I couldn’t be more blessed!
As I journeyed through the grief and healing, my friends and family, too many to mention, believed in me even when I had lost faith in myself, overwhelmed by the wolf of self-doubt.
It’s imperative to surround ourselves with people who believe in us and who encourage our evolution to greatness. We are not our traumas but it is in our trauma we find our genius!
My next venture is to bring my book to Hollywood for a film or serious to help raise consciousness around love and abuse. It is my desire to change the culture’s acceptance of abuse within our relationships.