Everyone wants love but not everyone finds it. Interestingly enough, when you love or are in love, you know exactly what it is. Love paints our view of the world and bestows purpose and meaning to life. Somehow, when love is absent or lost, amnesia sets in. It’s hard to define love; you ask if it’s even real. You are either on a journey toward love or on a journey to defy it.
Although you were lured by the pretense of love, the truth, too ugly to digest all at once, is that you had been lured into a war — one you had no idea you were in. The abuser waged war against your peace of mind, dignity and sense of self. By the time you woke up, you were either discarded or you literally had to run away from the reach of your partner.
All relationships hinge on trusting yourself to someone else. Social predators such as narcissists, psychopaths and others with antisocial traits, charm, manipulate, and shamelessly plow their way over that trust, leaving a broad trail of broken hearts, empty wallets, and shattered expectations.